Well I'm sure that many of you are still trying to find your way through all if this madness. Kids home from school. You are (if you're lucky) working from home. Sounds great right? HA HA well I'm sure most of you have already lost that loving feeling for your loved ones at least once. Listen it's hard to adjust especially when something like this is thrust upon you with little to no notice and you had no choice. I'm having my own struggles with all of this but I'm not going to get into that. I want to try my best to remain positive and share some things that might help.
We're all having all types of emotions about what's going on. Sometimes it's hard to express those even to your closest friends because you don't want to expose yourself or feel vulnerable or maybe you're supposed to be the strong one. Whatever your situation is everyone has feelings and it's never a good idea to try to hide them or push them aside. My advice, not that you asked but during tough times like this you have to remember to take care of yourself. I know it's probably hard to think about how to do that when you've got so much on your plate but all those people who you're caring for and who are depending on you? Where will they be if you can't anymore? During stressful times it's best to take a minute for yourself.
Think about this. We've all been sent home in order to stop this virus from spreading. What if there's an even bigger reason? Most of us are so busy doing things outside of the house that we typically don't spend a lot of time together at home with our families. Now that we're being forced to we're finding it a little uncomfortable. I'm not saying you don't love your families, I know you do. Well I hope you do lol. Seriously though maybe this new routine has you in a space that you've never been before. Maybe you're feeling new things or maybe you're learning new things about yourself, your significant other and your kids. Maybe you're also learning your true value or worth in the eyes of your employer or colleagues, friends and other family members. I think we all need to take this time to take care of our own house.
I listened to a few sermons on Sunday and one Pastor said we all need to take inventory. I agree with that 100%, own it all. The good stuff, the difficult stuff, the angry stuff. All of your stuff. Along with stuff coming at you from your significant others or kids. Take inventory of your feelings. I'm a writer so my suggestion is to write down how you feel. Yes, like on paper with a pen or a pencil. I'm sure you're been spending way too much time on social media so put the phone, tablet, laptop down, step away from the computer. Find yourself a quiet space (if possible) and relax for a few minutes. Take time to sit with your feelings. Write down how you're feeling, let it all out, pour it onto the paper. Sometimes that's all you need to do is to recognize the feelings, yes your feelings want to be heard and acknowledged too. Sitting with your feelings and just allowing yourself to feel whatever it is is very therapeutic. Now once you do that depending on the feelings you might need to take things a step or two further, but you'll know if just getting the feelings out was enough to relief some pressure or if you might need a little more.
During this extremely stressful time we are all living through right now there are many resources available online to get help. If you're employed you might be able to contact your employers EAP line to talk to someone. I'm not a therapist or counselor I'm just someone who has been through some things over the years and I'm sharing how I've managed to cope. Writing is my outlet. Maybe for you it's reading, or painting. You know what works well for you and again if prior methods aren't working for you. Please ask for help. You're not alone and there's no shame in asking for a little help.
Sharing link with you to a Facebook page where we've posted some helpful links from others to help during this stressful time.
https://www.facebook.com/LiveLifeEsteem/
Until next time please my friends practice social distancing until the authorities tell us it's okay to socialize again.
Terri D
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