Reasons why

    In the past 6 months, I have been reminded time and time again that everything happens for a reason. When it's happening you may not understand the why but rest assured if you're paying attention eventually the reason why will be revealed to you. 

    Typically when we're asking why it's because something bad or painful has occurred and we want to know why we're being punished etc. Trust me, over the years I've asked a lot whys. I guess I'm at the point in my life where I can finally see or stop and pay attention to the answers to my whys. 

    People come into your life for a reason, and unfortunately, people also leave your life for a reason.  Sometimes the reason is about you, and sometimes it's about them.

    Sometimes the answer to the why doesn't come, and it's in those moments that it can be really easy to get stuck in that dark place of wondering. I'm here to encourage you to break out of that cycle by focusing on all of the good whys that happen every day that we never seem to question or spend much time thinking about.  We simply take all the good stuff for granted. 

    You applied for a job and didn't get it. You may ask, why not me? A little while later, an even better opportunity presents itself, and you are so overjoyed that you never take the time to consider that you didn't get the 1st job because something better was waiting for you a little further down the road.

    Maybe you met someone who you thought was the love of your life. You gave them your all, the very best of you, and ultimately they decided you were not the one for them. It's painful trust me I know but in the end, you must realize that sometimes the pain we feel is necessary in order to set up us for something even greater down the road. 

    For those rolling their eyes, let me challenge you to think about it this way.  If bad things continue to happen to you and you never get the "good" things or the reasons why maybe you might need to change some things in your life. I'm not an expert here just a woman who's sharing her thoughts based on my experiences. With that said when I found myself stuck in a never-ending cycle of bad experiences where the whys were not adding up I had to look at myself and ask some tough questions. What decisions am I making? Who's in my circle? Where am I placing my energy? There are so many more questions that can be asked depending on the circumstances. The point is to try to focus on the positive energy and not get stuck dwelling on the negative energy. If you do find yourself in a negative energy cycle for an extended period of time, it might be time to reboot. 

    Rebooting means different things to different people. For me, it means I need some time alone to sit with my thoughts and maybe write in my journal, create something like a new book cover, or start a new project. What works for me may not work for you, but it's important to know yourself well enough to know what you need and when you need it. 

    2023 is the year of self-care for me. That doesn't mean I'm being selfish it simply means that I am making an intentional effort to pay attention to my needs while doing what I can for others. If you need some help with finding your whys or how to reboot, visit my website www.authorterrid.com